As a parent, I am trying to enjoy my kids while they are young. I am trying to NOT think about them having to deal with sex questions or sex itself.
But knowing how fast time goes, and having treated young girls and guys as young as 12 for sex related infections and pregnancies, I have to start prepping myself, my husband and my children for this topic.
As with most things, communication and honesty are key, but these days, parents and adult guardians have to be aware that our youth generation has unprecedented exposure and access to sex information and topics.
A recent survey found that at the prime time of 7-8 pm TV programming slot there were over 8 obscene and sexual innuendos per hour in the so-called family friendly shows.
Even animated shows targeted for the Youth 7-9 year olds has very explicit and exaggerated body parts depicted and violent acts- most attractive to boys.
Never mind that they might have someone on the side that they do “practice” sex acts with whom they would NOT date. There are various slang terms for this person, the most interesting of which is “homie lover friend” -AKA- usually an older “friend” who they practice sex with, but who they do not consider their steady boyfriend or girlfriend to bring home to the family.
Thus, in this social schizophrenic distinction, some young people are still calling themselves virgins, deluding themselves into a false sense of security and health and also not dealing with their own moral or family standards.
So you can imagine how hard trying to teach safe sex and helping your children prevent unwanted pregnancies could be when they truly feel they are virgins and will not fess up to the “sex practice” they are engaging in on the side.
Make sure you are communicating well with your teens and that you are aware of all the possibilities and games they can engage in to avoid labels, pressure and trouble.
Hopefully, there won’t be a “homey lover friend” in your kids’ or my kids’ lives but realize that they are out there.